Recommended Books for Parents Facing Divorce

Robert E. Emery, Ph.D., THE TRUTH ABOUT CHILDREN AND DIVORCE: Dealing with the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive. Viking Books, 2004 ISBN 0670032875

How you manage or fail to manage your emotions is the most important task of divorce.

Isolina Ricci, MOM'S HOUSE, DAD'S HOUSE: A COMPLETE GUIDE FOR PARENTS WHO ARE SEPARATED, DIVORCED, OR LIVING APART. Fireside, 1997 ISBN 0684830787

Isa Ricci, a compassionate leader in this field, has updated and revised her classic book. This is the best of the self-help books on how to help your children have both of their parents.

Jeffrey P. Wittmann, Ph.D., Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who Drives You Crazy. Perigree, 2001. ISBN 0399527109

The book you want to read if you find yourself dealing with a difficult partner! A wonderful blend of wisdom, encouragement, and skill-specific advice. Everyone I have ever recommended it to has found it helpful!

Melinda Blau, FAMILIES APART: TEN KEYS TO SUCCESSFUL CO-PARENTING. Perigee, 1995. ISBN 039952150X

Practical solutions giving parents a new model of post-divorce relations.  The book describes the tasks, attitudes and skills required to move the family through the transitions and events that continue to bring parents together in their children's lives.

Sue Talia, HOW TO AVOID THE DIVORCE FROM HELL: AND DANCE TOGETHER AT YOUR DAUGHTER'S WEDDING. Nexus Publishing, 1997. ISBN 0965107507

A successful divorce lawyer for over twenty years in California, Sue Talia has written an intelligent, compassionate, thoughtful, and readable book.

Vicky Lansky, VICKY LANSKY'S DIVORCE BOOK FOR PARENTS, 3rd ed., Book Peddlers, 1996. ISBN 0916773485

Lansky offers age-specific advice on what reactions to expect from children and ways to cope with divorce.

William Martin, THE PARENT'S TAO TE CHING. Marlowe & Company, 1999. ISBN 1569246629

Not just about divorce. This is perhaps the most beautiful book I know on parenting. 

“Gentleness when your child misbehaves
Requires great self-control
And is the way of power.”

“You do not have to make things turn out well.
You have to recognize that all is well.”

George Newman, 101 WAYS TO BE A LONG DISTANCE SUPER DAD – OR MOM, TOO! Tucson, Arizona: Blossom Valley Press, 1996. ISBN 0939894025

A guide for parents who live distant from their children.

Twilley, Dwight, QUESTIONS FROM DAD. Charles E. Tuttle Company, Inc., 1994. ISBN 080481984X

An alternative to feeling helpless as an absent parent. You can stay in touch with your children, with love, creativity and playfulness. A fun how-to book.